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Things you could tell your younger self

Hey guys! Welcome to today’s blog post! I hope your weekend is going well and will be even better after reading this post heh.

Ever wish you could go back in time and meet your younger self, and give that little boy/girl a hug, cause same. There’s a lot I would tell my younger self, and I’m going to share a few of them right here.

So, sit tight and enjoy :)


1. You are beautiful/handsome period.

I’m sure all of us have struggled to be confident in ourselves at one point or another, we may also still be in the midst of those feelings from time to time, or even every day.

True, there are some things about us physically that we get insecure about, maybe because of what someone said, or what the media has dictated for us what beauty is. It’s so crazy the way the things that were said to us as kids impact us as full-grown adults. I like to go back to the word of God, in Psalms 139:13-14.


For You formed my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.


God created you, looked at you and said that what He created was good. That transcends what anyone’s opinion is, even your own. It takes time to unlearn the things that people have said about us, and walk in God’s confidence, that’s ok, as long as you’re in the process. You are beautiful, unique, gifted, and talented. There are so many amazing things about yourself that you haven’t even discovered yet. Always know that it’s what God says that is final.


2. Your trauma and experiences don’t have to be your identity

We’ve all gone through stuff and tough times, some of them leave us with wounds and scars. At times, it even feels like we don’t know who we were before that thing happened.

Many are the times I’ve found myself letting the things I’ve gone through become who I am. Like this friend stopped talking to me out of the blue so now, I’m the friend who will always be rejected. Yet that’s not true.

We ought to be careful to not set up camp on the things we’ve gone through, because at times that place of pain can get comfortable and we end up identifying ourselves with the pain in everything that we do, everywhere we go and with everybody we encounter.

Instead, hope again, put your head up. Let God into that situation and let Him heal you, seek help from people around you and try to get some therapy. You are more than what you’ve been through :)


3. Don’t tell yourself no, let other people do that

On this point, I mean, don’t disqualify yourself before even trying. Try that thing and see how it turns out, it may turn out better than expected. Step out in boldness and believe in yourself first, before anyone ever does. Don’t sit on your potential, gifts and talents. It’s better for someone else to tell you no, and that you can’t do it, instead of you bringing yourself down by disqualifying yourself. You never know what it may lead to.


4. Speak up

Because you have a voice. One thing that I’ve discovered, is you teach people how to treat you, and people are not mind-readers. Unless you communicate, they won’t know your boundaries, convictions and what you will tolerate or not.

If you’re not ok with something, hunny speak up. Don’t suffer in silence. I do understand that at times we will go through uncomfortable situations, like having to work with someone who gets on your nerves lol, maybe God is using that experience to grow you in patience, love and understanding.

When you speak up, some people may get offended and that’s ok. Let them, as long as you’re able to protect your peace.

Lemme give an example of a situation whereby no matter what, someone is out of line, and you need to speak to kindly remind them of your boundaries.

Speaking from the perspective of a woman, and having experienced this recently, ever met that relentless guy, who insists on being in your business when you don’t want them to. They insist on doing things for you, hanging out with you, calling you all the time, no matter how many times you say ‘no, I’m not interested’? Then, when you kindly but firmly communicate your boundaries, they say you’re being too harsh, rude, direct, a diva lol or the b-word.

Please, so when someone constantly disrespects your boundaries, after telling them no, you’re just supposed to smile and nod?! I don’t think so. Ladies and gents (because I know some of you have experienced this), don’t suffer in silence, speak up. Don’t let someone prevent you from living peacefully and freely because they just can accept your no. okay?


5. Don’t forget to have fun

We’ve all heard of that saying, ‘All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy’

I totally agree. The older you get, and as responsibilities pile up, you’ve got to be super intentional in making time to rest, hobbies and leisure activities.

Nobody was created to work 24/7, and nobody is productive or at their best when burnt out and exhausted, which can be as a result of working too much.

It’s important to know when to press pause and stop. From taking constant health breaks when working, to taking weeks-long leaves.

One pattern I noticed with me is, the only time I achieved something great, was when I did work hard and do my best, but I didn’t lose myself in the work. I was intentional in making time for rest and fun activities. So, rest.


6. God loves you so much and has so much in store for you, so dream big and don’t settle for less

Saving the best for last! There’s no other greater love that you’ll ever receive and experience other than that of God. No matter what the love songs say, or that guy or girl in your inbox.no human being can fill that void or bring contentment, security and rest in your heart like God can.

Man will disappoint, but God, Him you can trust to always come through, He is ever faithful.

Also, let not what people say, the media, the economy or earthly things dictate how big you’ll dream for your life. God exists outside of time, human and worldly limitations don’t apply to Him.

It was only until I began to walk with God, that I realized how small I dreamt and expected out of my life, yet God had created me for so much more. Trust God with your life, Trust in His plans for you, Trust in His dreams for you and don’t settle for less. He placed you on earth for a purpose that is bigger than you, that’s why you need Him to accomplish it :).


Okay guys, that’s all I have for today’s post. I hope you’ve enjoyed it :). Please like and share this post of you’d like to, and if you haven’t subscribed yet to my monthly newsletter, please do so down below in the subscription box.

I hope you have a lovely Saturday and an awesome weekend. Be blessed, and I will see you on the next one :)


Xoxo.

BK.

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