As I become older and transition in womanhood, I have a prompting to talk more about things I have learned as a woman, even though I haven't been here that long. I think this is just a small list of six things that a woman needs to thrive in life. Some are serious, some not so much, because we like to keep it light-hearted here. Let’s talk about them.
1. A secret stash of cash
In terms of career, the sector of finance and accounting is where I thrive, and from my experience, I have learned that on a small scale like as an individual, or a large scale like a large organization, having a stash of cash somewhere, or some assets that can easily be liquidated, is very important. As a woman, I think it is wise to have a secret stash of cash that only you know about. This is to cushion you from life’s inevitabilities, and so that you don’t have to borrow from anyone. If you are working and earning some money, I encourage you to not only save, but also invest.
You can do this by opening an MMF (Money Market Fund). Without getting too technical here, an MMF is like an account whereby you can save money, like a bank account. The MMF provider, which could be a financial institution, places the funds you’ve saved in a pool together with the savings of other account holders and invests them on your behalf in a Government Treasury Bond/Bill. Every month, you will receive a small interest in addition to the money you’ve already saved. The amount is dependable on the current interest rate, inflation, and such factors. The advantages of MMFs include ;
They are very easy and affordable to set up.
There’s no minimum limit amount that needs to be in your account at any given time.
You can easily access and withdraw your money, so it’s great for emergencies.
Your money earns a small amount of interest every month.
It’s low risk.
Many are the times I have found myself in a fix, and that secret stash of cash I have somewhere saved the day.
As young women still finding our footing to become financially independent, this is a great place to start with our savings and investments.
Please watch these videos and take notes to gain more insights on MMFs;
2. A tube of lip gloss
There’s just something about shiny lips that give you that ‘put-together’ look. In the past, I would refrain from lip gloss because I didn’t want to draw so much attention to my lips, but these days I rarely leave the house without lip gloss. It makes you feel confident and classy. Also, it enhances your look without doing too much. If you’re looking for a simple way to boost your confidence, get yourself a nice tube of lip gloss.
3. At least one pair of heels
When you wear high heels, you have no option but to stand tall, and pay a little bit more attention to your posture and the way you walk. You are forced to stand straight, shoulders back, eyes forward, you just ooze and exude confidence. Plus the ‘tap tap tap’ sound on the floor when you walk?!? eish.
4. Boundaries with yourself and others
Boundaries keep you safe, and they keep the relationships around you in a comfortable place, whereby both parties are content and thriving. Most of the pain we experience as women is due to us not having boundaries, or compromising on the boundaries we already have, especially in romantic relationships. Woman, guard your essence and energy, don’t just give your energy and time to everyone and anyone, some people just want to take away from you and leave you at a deficit. Not everyone deserves a seat at your table.
5. High standards
I have never met someone who ever regretted having high standards in life. They probably had to fight and wait a little longer to get what they wanted, but the wait and fight was worth it. I have however met plenty of people who had high standards, lowered them, and regretted almost immediately.
Girl, most of us are afraid of having high standards in life because we fear that we can’t have the best, so we settle. This isn’t just in romantic relationships btw, but even in friendships, career, finances etc. Be brave enough to walk away from anything and anyone who may be forcing you to lower your standards, move forward in faith believing that there is better out there, because there is. Don’t you know you have a BIG God, who can do the impossible?
6. A personal relationship with the Lord
Speaking of this BIG God, you can’t know who God really is, unless you yield yourself, surrender your will and get to know Him for yourself, personally. Keep aside what you’ve heard what people say, the kind of posts they make on social media, or even the faith you were raised with. Seek God, and know Him for yourself. He is an incredible Father, and His love is nothing like you’ve ever experienced. Every woman needs Him. I don't think there's a particular formula through which you can begin to build a relationship with God. All you need is a willing and open heart. In His own amazing way, God may place someone in your life who may lead you to Christ, or you may even come a cross a post on social media that triggers your curiosity. He is a Big God, He can do anything.
If you have reached the end of this post, thank you! I hope you've enjoyed it and learned a thing or two.
I'll see you on the next one!
xoxo,
Miss Kambe.
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