I wish someone had told me how hard adulting could be sometimes :/
Hey you! Happy new month and welcome to today’s blog post.
Today, we’re talking all about adulting and things that caught me off guard about it.
Honestly, nobody told me about these things and I have had to experience them to know that they do exist, and I know I’m not alone out there 😉
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Anyway, let’s talk about this adulting thing and the kinda hard facts I am facing.
1. You will be alone… A LOT
Oufff, I had to start with this one.
I’m sure many of you out there are having a taste of what it feels like to move away from home, to live on your own, or with roommates. And to be honest, sometimes it does get lonely.
For example, if you live alone,
you wake up alone,
prepare yourself, alone
go to school/work, alone
go about your day (at least this time you won’t be alone)
then go back to an empty house.
Go to sleep, alone.
As for me, I still live with my parents, but currently, I am the only sibling at home. My older sister moved out last year, and my two younger sisters are in school, so it’s just me and my parents in the house most of the time.
I do appreciate this time with them, but mehn, I am beginning to realize how siblings make life much fuller.
Regardless, it’s only for a season, and there will be a time I’ll crave or have to intentionally carve out time to be by myself.
I was opening up to a friend of mine about my situation, being the only sibling at home alone, and what not- and she said that it may be an opportunity for me to discover more about myself.
She was right. It is hard sometimes to be alone most of the time, but you learn a lot about yourself, which will help you in the future.
So, if you’re feeling alone, just know you’re not alone, in your feeling alone.
A lot of us share the same sentiments.
2. Even if it’s on sale, you’re still spending your money
A good sale is something that I love and am always on the lookout for.
Fun fact about me, I always carry a small carrier bag in my main bag, just in case I get a good deal and want to buy something.
However, something that I have discovered is that even if it’s a sale, you are still spending your money.
So, just keep that in mind when you come across a good deal.
Ask yourself, ‘do I really need it, or am I buying it just because it’s on sale?’
3. You'll be booking and going for appointments on your own
Gone are the days when we went to see the doctor with mummy.
When he/she asked ‘so, what’s wrong?’
Then we would proceed to look at mummy to explain to the doctor what was wrong with us.
Now, we not only have to book these appointments on our own but also go for them, on our own.
Now, we’re the ones who have to tell the doctor what’s wrong.
But anyway, we have to grow up at some point, right?
4. If you don’t reply now, you’ll probably never reply
Have you ever been in that situation whereby you see a text, then instead of actually replying, you reply to it in your head, and not to the actual text?
Before you know it, the texts have accumulated and the ones you’ve left on read are starting to feel some typa way about your bad texting habits.
How I avoid this? If you can respond at that moment, just do it. If you keep postponing, you’ll just keep postponing more and never get around to replying.
5. It gets much harder to meet up with your friends
This one hits me right in the heart.
The older we become, the busier we’ll get and the more responsibilities we’ll have. Keep in mind that it’s not just happening to you, but to your friends as well.
It will get much harder to meet up with your friends, thus, the need to be super intentional in doing so.
Plus, friend meet-ups, especially after a long while is like therapy honestly.
Friendships are gifts, and good friends are rare to find. So, if you can spare some time to meet up with your friends, at least once in a while, just do it.
Alright, that’s it for today’s post.
Listen, adulting is NOT easy, and all of us are just trying our best to get by. So, I’m, sending you love, light, hugs, and warm blankets, as you navigate through this season.
Keep taking it day by day, do your best, and find healthy ways to process your emotions and all the changes that are taking place. Relax your shoulders, and take a deep breath of fresh air (😉).
Everything will be okay.
I’ll see you on the next one.
Xoxo,
BK.
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