Work on these four things, and you are well on your way to placing a checkmark against your goals!
Hello there and welcome to another blog post :)
Today, I will be sharing with you a couple of things that you may be doing, that could possibly be stopping you from achieving your goals.
I chose four of these because I have been guilty of all of them, and from experience, I can tell you for sure, they did hinder me from achieving my goals to some extent.
Before we explore these points, do not forget to like this post, comment if you have something to add, and be sure to subscribe to the e-mail list.
Let’s dive in!
1. Gossiping
This one’s a spicy one, right?
As a Christian, I know that gossiping is sinful, and I should run away from it, and ask the Lord to help me tame my mouth.
Aside from that, I have also discovered how much it hinders people from actually hitting their goals.
Here’s how gossiping is holding you back;
a) You waste a lot of time
Imagine how much time you would save, if instead of calling up your friends to tell them the latest ‘tea’, you would take the time to work on your goals and dreams? Just imagine…
b) You begin to put your nose in other people’s business
Which is quite rude and invasive honestly. You sure wouldn’t want other people to poke around your business, so why do you do it to others?
c) You tear others down with your words, instead of building up
Tell me an incident whereby gossiping about someone was done with the intention of building them up? I don’t think there is, has been or will ever be.
Plus, great things are achieved when we work together and genuinely support each other, not tear each other down with words, even those said in secret.
d) You subconsciously begin to compare yourself with others
Ever heard something about someone and been like, ‘well, at least that didn’t happen to me like it happened to them’, or ‘I would never do what they did’.
You may begin to compare in a negative light, which butchers your self-esteem, or in a ‘positive’ light, which puffs up your ego, because you may think you’re better than them.
e) If someone has told you something about that person, it clouds your perception of them
And for what? Remember, all our perceptions about each other are different, as we are all different. The way someone sees another, will not be the same way as you. Therefore, if you want to guard your perception of another, guard your ears from hearing things about them that may not be based on objective truth.
P.S; A tried and tested word of advice; If they’re always gossiping about others with you, they are probably gossiping about you with others. Yikes!
2. Copying instead of working from inspiration
Regardless of what our areas of expertise are, we always have people that we look up to.
I find that when I see someone that I admire, I am curious to know what their story and journey are. What experiences shaped them to be who they are today?
I am also curious to know how they do what they do, and what makes them sooo good at it.
I’m curious to know their method, and I am sure plenty of us find ourselves in that place.
It’s great to be inspired. In fact, it would be strange to not have someone in your life, or with a public platform, whom you don’t admire.
The only issue that rises up is when the inspiration turns into you wanting to copy exactly what this person is doing.
Even if you may copy someone else’s method entirely, sorry to say, you won’t get the same result. Why? Because you are not the same person.
Your super power isn’t in copying someone else, it’s in showing up as uniquely you.
You’re an original, one of a kind, there may be someone out there who looks like you, likes the same things as you do, thinks in a similar way, but there is no You.
So, as you look up to those who you admire, work from a place of inspiration.
Implement what you learn from them, but also make space for originality.
3. Consuming more than you create
The way social media is designed, it wants you to stay scrolling, liking, commenting and viewing for as long as possible. Its business model is set up in a way that you are the product, and the more you consume, the more profitable business is.
It takes more discipline to actually create something of your own on your social media pages than to consume.
Consuming is easy, creating takes work.
If you desire to create something, not only on social media, but even out there, cut the consuming to a minimum and create more. Your creativity will grow the more you put it to work.
4. Telling everyone and anyone about what you’re going to do
Ever heard of the power of discretion? Well, there is power in being discreet, especially with telling people about that you’re going to do.
Personally, when I want to embark on a big project, well, I first tell God by praying about it. I do know He already knows what I am planning, but I usually make space in prayer to invite Him into my plans and allow Him to guide me through. Then later on I may tell the significant people in my life. Then the rest will just see the results ;).
Your process may be different, but I would love to encourage you to be discreet and discern who you should tell about what you plan to do.
Why?
· Not everyone will be happy for you. Hard pill to swallow: Not everyone wants to see you succeed. Or rather, succeed more than them.
· Some people are kill joys and will always have something negative to say, which will plant doubts and fears in your head about your plans and ideas.
· You are more likely to achieve your goals without the pressure of people’s expectations.
You may say that you tell everyone about your goals because you need accountability, but you don’t need many people to hold you accountable. You only need the right people. And, most often, the right people are few.
Alright darlings. Many thanks for reading through this blog post. I hope you have been inspired and learned something new.
Feel free to share your thoughts on this with me via the comment section below or reach out via my social media pages or e-mail.
I delight in hearing from you :).
I’ll see you on the next one!
Xoxo,
BK.
Comments